With more than enough ammunition to fuel the argument that you’ve failed, you’re not enough, and you can never be/do/have, there are plenty of places to fall short before you even begin. It plagues every stage of life, every race, nationality and even every generation. It’s a battle fought in the invisible places of our minds.
Those self-doubting, self-critical, defeating thoughts plague our souls, and we’re fed up.
What if you had access to an arsenal that rivals those lies? What if you could once and for all defeat those mindsets that hold you back?
This series is for you. Every day this month we’ll tackle one lie and replace it with an affirmation of truth. Not cheesy platitudes, but truth based on the words of your Creator. Instead of feeling shackled by I am not’s, and cannots, you’ll stand tall in the truth of who you are, what you are capable of and who’s opinion really matters.
Each Truth Statement link below will go live the day of (starting tomorrow), or you can subscribe using the sign up on the right and it will come directly to your email inbox every morning for the month of October!
Here’s a few tips before we begin.
- These are suggestions. The trick to using affirmations is BELIEVING them. The word AFFIRM means to state as a fact; assert strongly and publicly; to declare, uphold and defend. To defend and state as fact – you have to believe it. If you find a different verse that more pointedly speaks to you, I say, GO FOR IT! Plaster it on a 3X5 card, speak it out and let it transform you.
- These Affirmations are intentionally broad- Be specific with yourself. For example: “I belong as a member of the body of Christ”, or “I have strength to set boundaries”, even: “I am heard as friend of God”. The more specific you are, the less room for doubt.
- Just in case you were wondering… this isn’t the “name it and claim it” game. This is taking God’s word and speaking it out loud so you can hear it and agree with what your Creator already says about you.
Day 1: An Introduction to the Real you
Day 2: I Belong
Day 3: I Am Valued
Day 4: I have Faith
Day 5: I Am Secure
Day 6: I Am Heard
Day 7: I Can Hear God’s Voice
Day 8: He is Holy
Day 9: I Am Redeemed
Day 10: I Am Whole (A guest Post!)
Day 11: I Can Stand Firm
Day 12: I Am Enough
Day 13: He is Enough
Day 14: I Am Qualified
Day 15: I Am Loved (Book Review)
Day 16: I Can Overcome Fear
Day 17: He is Faithful
Day 18: I Can Persevere (A guest Post!)
Day 19: I Am Strong
Day 20: I Can Do Hard Things
Day 21: I Am Dignified
Day 22: He Provides
Day 23: I Am Able To Fulfill The Call of God on My Life
Day 24: I Can Speak Up
Day 25: I Am Joyful (genuinely)
Day 26: I Am Beautiful
Day 27: I Have Wisdom
Day 28: I Am Confident
Day 29: I Am Free From my Past
Day 30: I Am Still Enough
Day 31: How to Hold On to These Affirmations When Circumstances Look Less Than
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I’ve been hoarding my words lately. I know that sounds really weird… but I have and there’s just no way around it. I have been stingy.
For no other reason than fear.
Fear of rejection. Fear of failure. Fear of displeasing God.
There. I said it.
I’ve been afraid to open my mouth and talk. I’ve hesitated to share my faith, my testimony and my experiences. It’s been a year of hard – hold that thought and wait – kinds of moments. There’s the mentor group I lead that ended. There’s the position at work I was preparing for that got dissolved in the restructuring. There’s the project that got shelved and re-shelved and then postponed and the other project pushed to the back burner. There’s life interruptions that seem to drag on and leave dreams dangling in the wind. Ugh.
I admit — I’ve let all of these moments add to the lie of rejection and failure. So I started clamming up and shutting down.
Until I got an email yesterday. This email reminded me of a short written piece I’d submitted for publication many many months ago but had minimized. Don’t let me fool you. I knew this piece had been accepted. I knew it was headed for publication and would be out in late September. But in it’s smallness, I brushed it off.
Isn’t it just like a lie to keep you so focused on the lack that you miss the gain?
On a whim I shared the news of the books release with my best friend and she went NUTS. Literally exploded with the cray-cray. As I watched all of her emoji’s roll in on my phone, I kept thinking – what’s the big deal? It isn’t that project. It isn’t that sought after booking. It isn’t being published by that company.
I know. I should be slapped.
That’s when His whisper came and said “you’ve been hoarding, holding back and hiding.” And He’s right. This fear of rejection and failure, a fear that was falsely backed up by these so called set backs, was silencing me. Worse? I was letting it.
His words simmered a bit in my soul and then today happened. Tired me got up and took my worn out self into yet another meeting. Not even two steps in the door (mind you, BEFORE coffee —someone gasp, ’cause that is serious) the leader stops me, looks me straight in the eyes, and says: “I just want you to know that just now, as I saw you coming in, God whispered that He is very pleased with you”.
Cue the waterworks.
He sees. He really and truly sees. He sees the tears, the fist pounding- head throbbing – groans; He hears the deep wordless sighs and watches the long nights, early mornings and blazing afternoons.
Maybe like me you’ve been hoarding your heart, in the shape of words or your talents, your time or your space all because of fear. Can I just be honest, it’s not worth it.
Even when progress is non-existent, when plans are completely undone, He is sovereign. And friend, He is faithful. What looks like failure is actually a set up. What looks like a shut down, is really a hold on. Don’t you dare overlook the abundance to focus on the lack. Life’s too short and faith’s too real.
So with this kick-in-my-pants kind of week I have two really cool announcements.
TOMORROW: The Five Minute Friday Book is officially available for purchase. I’ll post a quick little link first thing in the morning!
AND OCTOBER 1st: I’m starting an affirmation series. Yup. I need to spend some time affirming myself of what I already know but have forgotten in the wake of yuck. So with you as my accountability I will write out the affirmation of God’s truth to battle the lies attacking our confidence.
Stay tuned friends. I’m done letting lies get the better of me. If you are too, well then, let’s battle this together ~ together, we’re mighty!
Hello Friday! Man am I glad to see you!! Not only for obvious reasons, but because you are where my life preserver began. You see, almost 3 years ago I started jumping in with a flash mob of writers every Friday. They helped me find a rhythm, they helped me get over the fear of writing, they challenged me. And this week… well this week I needed those reminders.
A writer is someone who writes. No other conditions applied. I needed that uncomplicated reminder.
So here I am on a Friday, sharing my writing with my most favorite flash mob EVER!
I am guilty of underestimating the power of 5 Minutes.
In 5 Minutes I can load the washing machine, load the dinner dishes into the dishwasher, or even Microwave some steamy fresh green beans.
5 Minutes could be the difference between dropping my kids off at school or having to park and walk them in. It is the difference between rushed and on time without question. I’d even go as far as saying it is the crucial pivot between hitting that stop light or sailing through it like a pro.
5 minutes has also made a huge difference in my writing. I’ve been able to pour out my heart in a free unedited space. While at first that made me squirm, it ultimately gave my soul some unabridged freedom. It is the difference between my overly critical self and my open heart conversation.
Without Five minutes of free writing I may have over analyzed myself right back into silence. Five minutes has set my perfectionism straight.
Whether it is 5 minutes of writing, or 5 minutes of prayer even 5 minutes of playing with your kids. It is ultimately a powerful 5 minutes of change.
~ I may be linking up today with this Five Minute Friday flash mob of fantastic writers – but you should also know that I am gonna go crazy about this community on Monday! We have a SUPER cool announcement!! ~
I sat there bewildered. I had done everything I knew to do. I humbled myself and prayed, fully believing. I fasted and memorized scritpure. I even got vulnerable and had others pray for me. I cried the hard and really ugly tears.
But God didn’t answer and my miracle didn’t come. It was like shooting in pitch black dark.
Disappointment swallowed me and all the feelings poured out like rain drops. I blamed God for a while, and then turned the blame on myself for the lack of whatever it was that was supposed to make this miracle happen. Question after question ran through my mind, trailed by scripture after scripture.
Yet, here I was still un-healed, still holding an unanswered prayer.
My faith felt broken and lost. I found myself sitting silently at His feet with no where else to go. I was at the end of myself, which, as it turns out, is where faith begins.
The longer I looked at the simmering disappointment the darker it got. Like sinking sand or raging waves, there was nothing to hold onto. That’s because faith cannot be conjured up in our own strength. We cannot will faith to grow or reason it to be. There isn’t a sequence of steps. It isn’t a thing to obtain or an action to perfect.
As I searched for answers in Hebrews, the Faith Hall of Fame as they say, I came across a phrase that left me speechless. In Hebrews 11:13 and 39 it says these Heroes “did not receive what had been promised”.
Their prayers went unanswered.
These great faith-filled men and women weren’t praised because they memorized scripture or prayed the most fervent prayers. No, they weren’t even praised for having the miracles they’d believed for. Their faith wasn’t about the results. Their faith was steadfast in who captivated their souls; they kept their eyes on Jesus. Jesus, the one who inspires, nurtures and completes our faith.
As we immerse ourselves in His presence, our faith deepens. Time spent in the word, time pouring out our worship before the Throne are all ways we encounter Him.
Faith comes through encountering the Living God. It is what happens when our hearts meet His character.
In that desperate place found at the end of ourselves is a place to lean into His holy and righteous character. As we press into His Word, and fix our eyes on His face, our faith is nurtured. Faith is a focus on knowing the One, the I AM. It is a confidence in who, not what.
I have yet to see the miracle I pray for, but I can see the love of my Savior, the face of my God and that is all the faith I need.